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Friday, December 14, 2012

Our sick society.

These are simply my thoughts and beliefs, but I have felt this for a long time.

It is our society today that has caused so many of these recent tragedies. It is the video games we allow our children to play, the movies and shows we allow our children to watch and the idea that we should not discipline our youngsters (or teens) for wrongdoing. We don't even make the adults in our society be responsible for their actions. We have allowed ourselves to become desensitized to what causes death, until something this shocking wakes us up briefly. Then, we are quick to point fingers at the gun manufacturers, the government, the parents. How many of us have let our children and their friends watch something violent and not think about how they are viewing it as not really happening in real life. Have you ever allowed your child to point a finger at someone as if they were pointing a gun and say "pow" and the "shot" person falls down, and everyone laughs? If you are with your family or friends and someone "different" walks past, are you quick to turn away, point fingers or make fun of them? We need to change our lives, go back to a simpler time where people were respectful and polite to everyone, and concerned with what we exposed our children to. Even those of us who think of ourselves as "good, moral people" have done things that have affected someone negatively, often without realizing it. These tragedies are not about guns, or the availability of them. The use of guns are just a minor part of the result of the sickness that is our society today. Please think about what you can do to make all of our lives happier and safer.

Added this morning:

More thoughts regarding this week's tragedies: A close reminded me of another cause of our societies problems, and that is that our schools and medical system is so quick to diagnose a child with a problem... ADD, ADHD, hyperactivity, etc. and they are quick to prescribe medications that change the child immeasurably, or they put them in "special" classes that further the distance between the child and their peers. If a parent or care provider tries to change how the teacher and school handle the problems, then the child and family are labeled as "problems" and ignored. An excited, energetic child should not be seen as a problem, but instead be a challenge to give them the tools to harness and use that energy positively. A quiet, shy child is not an "easy, leave in the corner" student. Take the time to draw them out of their comfort zone and show them how they can be a part of a group. We need to be willing to take the time to address the issue, determine if it is a problem and then look for normal ways to help improve it.


  1. Thank you for writing this post. I've put up a post on my blog this morning with a suggestion readers come over here to read your words that say it better than I can.

    1. Mama Pea, thank you. I am finding that my thoughts flow so much better on "paper" so to speak, rather than out of my mouth. I've added more today re: how our schools handle these cases.

  2. Thank you, Mama Pea, for suggesting I come here to read this. It's absolutely right. I've been saying for years, that we're schooling our children and adults to be violent with each other, and it's bad for all of us. Even the cartoons for little children are now about shooting, beating and abusing others. I don't know how to stop it other than to turn the tv off and refuse to go to movies. I taught my children and grandchildren to respect others and celebrate the differences, but I'm only one person. Why don't others see what this is doing to us?

  3. Thank you Ruth. I think we are all tired of blaming inanimate objects for the problems. We've banned many drugs but we still have tons of addicts and drug lords and their gangs. The same will happen if we ban guns. The criminals will have them and the rest of us will be at their mercy. And I have yet seen a car manufacturer or an alcohol company shut down because a drunk driver killed someone.
    I don't have any answers, but I do know that we are traveling along a bad path. People have been allowed to go from being responsible to making excuses.