So, after reading what you all wrote in response to my last post, I have decided to rethink my previous decision re: "training the hubby" (thank goodness he doesn't know my blog address). I guess last night I was tired and a little (or a lot) hormonal when I wrote that.
Reality is, I am very co-dependant... always have been. Also, I have talked to him before regarding his helping me more with kitchen and household stuff. He moans, groans, reminds me he does laundry (which he does), and that he handles the outside (which actually we share-I can't split wood, but I pack and stack it). Then, he grudgingly helps out for a few days, then slides backwards. I just need to remind myself not to be so much of a martyr (but seriously it's the only thing I'm really good at -LOL). Also, just asking him to do something and not taking it personally when he rolls his eyes would help too.
The funny thing is I had a conversation today with a older female clerk at the drugstore-I was checking to see if a prescription he had dropped off about 4 weeks ago was still there, and of course it wasn't. I said "He forgot about it..." she said "as his wife, I feel like you should take care of stuff like that, scheduling his appointments, etc. for him". I said "I work 40 hours a week just like he does" and she said "that doesn't matter". I've known her for years, so I just said "well, I don't agree", smiled and walked away. It's funny how society still tries to train us to take care of the "men-folk".
Anyway, taking time to breath, wait for Kaitlyn and Justin to get settled in their new place and then discuss the steps we need to take to all feel more "relaxed". Thanks for being my "fairy-godmothers" and giving me such good advice.
Hope you are all enjoying the winter, and for those of you in the storms path, staying safe and warm.
wooo, I sure do speak "hormonal" this year so I'm right there with ya, I get it! I always think that my kids teeth would fall out and they would never get to school if anything ever happened to me, and even though I do "all that" since I know it wouldn't get done, it doesn't stop me from getting frustrated and wishing it were different sometimes. I usually cope and accept just fine but we all have those days :)
ReplyDelete